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Nerys Anthony's avatar

Highly relatable, spot on read.

Finding the energy for multiple daily call out of the behaviour you describe is hard at times.

I remember early in my career I was told to remove my nose piercings and ditch the trainers. Years later the trainers are back but sadly the nose piercings closed up.

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The Muse by Dr Sarah Hughes's avatar

Thank you for reading! It’s exhausting isn’t it some days. I refused to take my nose rings out but I know I didn’t get at least 1 job I interviewed for as a result - wild! We keep going and keep breaking cycles 🙏🏼

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Sarah Henry's avatar

Very insightful. I relate to so much of what you’ve said. I remember being told if I wanted to be taken seriously I should rethink my hair colour! I dye it a shade of red! I have also been told so many times I’m too assertive or too emotional! What frustrates me most, particularly as a menopausal woman, some of this then does lead to tears (mostly from frustration) but that then reinforces the emotional narrative

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The Muse by Dr Sarah Hughes's avatar

I know that feeling, being so frustrated the tears come. I out all the emotion, own the menopause and that helps a bit! Ps… your hair has always suited you that red tone ❤️

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